I'm Divorcing the Divorce

Divorce brings out the worst in some people. I can't imagine another event where two people have the ability to do inexcusable, cruel things to one another-- nor where a simple, innocent child suddenly becomes No.1 on the Weapons of Mass Destruction list.

In some cases, it brings out the best or at least unveils a few surprises. I know a year ago when my brother announced he was getting a divorce, I seriously, I thought in a year or two my niece would become a CPS child in foster care.

My brother surprised me though by getting his act together. The Utah court system surprised me too by continually placing his daughter with his wife who has already harvested one misdemeanor for child endangerment (she left their severely autistic child alone in a tube shoot on a river with no life jacket).

Meanwhile, my brother has worked two jobs so he can pay more than $2,000 a month in child support and alimony (she isn't working and flat out refuses to consider a job, even though their daughter is in school six hours a day). He's also found services he'd love to place his daughter in -- if his wife would just get a job. These services would help his daughter one day life a normal life.

Now, I am only hearing one side of the story, so maybe she's become super mom? I hope so (because it would be nice for my niece's sake to have super mom), but to tell you the truth I really don't want to know.

I'm over this divorce. The infectious drama is rotting my own house. I don't want to hear it, so please take your complaints, make a list and brainstorm for things you can do to put this drama to rest once and for all. To my brother's credit: he hasn't brought the drama to my house. My mother, who I love to death, brings it and I eat it up-- and then I get all upset. I can't do it anymore and I know I can't talk to her without talking about "the divorce," so until "the divorce" is over---

Love you, but I really need some happy in my life.